Marina Fogle and Elle Wright share their personal tragedies and grief to help others during Baby Loss Awareness Week
To mark Baby Loss Awareness Week, we were joined by Marina Fogle and her friend Elle Wright.
In August 2014, Marina and her husband Ben Fogle shared the heartbreaking news that they had lost their son Willem at 32 weeks gestation. Following the trauma, Marina formed a strong bond with Elle, who had lost her newborn son Teddy aged just three days.
Describing how she felt after having Willem, Marina said: 'I felt very isolated in terms of how to cope with it. I had no friends who I could have coffee with, and say "Is this normal?"'
Marina also explained how important it is for fathers to talk openly following the loss of a baby. 'I found people asked Ben the whole time I was doing, but very few asked how he was doing. We experienced grief in different ways. We need to be discussing it from the male perspective as well. Very often, they feel the impact a little bit later.
'Certainly for Ben, he totally lost his confidence, three, four months afterwards, when I was just getting back on my feet again. He totally regressed, and found it very difficult to talk about.'
Elle also opened up about how she also struggled with her grief following the loss of baby Teddy.
'After Teddy died, I felt so isolated, I felt that I was the only person it had happened to. Most of my friends have never coped with any kind of loss,' she said. 'When you lose a child, you have to live with that sadness every single day.'
Elle has written a book about the loss of Teddy called Ask Me His Name and explained: 'It's giving people permission to continue that conversation. The conversation doesn't always need to stop with "I'm so sorry". '
Watch the video to see the full interview with Marina and Elle.