MAGGIE OLIVER, SAMMY WOODHOUSE AND SAIRA KHAN JOIN FORCES FOR OUR NEVER TOO LATE TO TELL - CHILD GROOMING
More than one in 10 women have experienced childhood sexual abuse and 75% have never told anyone about it.
Our Saira knows how hard it can be to speak out about abuse. She broke down on Loose Women in 2017 telling how she was molested by an uncle at 13, a secret she had kept for decades.
Now Saira has teamed up with Maggie and Sammy as part of our Never Too Late To Tell campaign to ensure people have someone to talk to in confidence.
Sammy said: 'I want to turn my experience that was so negative into a positive and to help other people. I don’t want to keep hearing or seeing little Sammys everywhere all over the country. If it helps just one I’ve done what I came to do.'
Maggie added: 'This is such a positive campaign by Loose Women because we are continuing the debate. We’re talking about it and educating people.'
Sammy Woodhouse was groomed aged just 14 by a man 10 years her senior. Shecame from a stable home but was groomed by Arshid Hussain, who subjected her to brutal beatings even when she was pregnant with his child at 15. He was jailed for 35 years for abusing girls in Rotherham in 2016.
Former Rochdale detective Maggie quit Greater Manchester Police in disgust at officers who saw vulnerable young girls as 'madams' and prostitutes and has been campaigning ever since.
'We are speaking out now about what is going on to children who are not in a position to speak out for themselves, where their voice hasn’t been heard,' Maggie said. 'We have to continue with that voice to bring about changes and we really will put a stop to this. Without that we never will.'
The women gave further advice on recording evidence, having an open dialogue with children, monitoring technology, enlisting help and looking for changes in children’s behaviour as signs of abuse.
'Keep the lines of communication open. Don’t become the enemy with your child,' Maggie advised. 'If you become "I told you so", if you become the enemy, your child will close down. People make mistakes, kids make mistakes, but make sure you’re not shutting the door and isolating that child even further.'
Since the Never Too Late To Tell campaign began in December 2016, Penny Lancaster, Karen Danczuk and others have opened up on the about the abuse they endured.
Watch the videos to see the full campaign on the show which aims to help parents if they have concerns about children being groomed.
NEVER TOO LATE TO TELL GROOMING HELPLINES
The NSPCC has information about grooming available here:
SIGNS OF GROOMING
The Children’s Society
PRIVACY TOOLS FOR ONLINE SAFETY
The NSPCC helpline is available if you’re worried about achild, even if you’re unsure, contact their professional counsellor’s 24/7 forhelp, advice and support.
NSPCC Helpline 0808 800 5000 or email email@example.com
Internet Matter parental controls
Muslim Women's Network UK - 0121 236 9000 / 07415 206936 /07779 358 131
Childline 0800 1111
Rape Crisis 0808 802 9999
SEXUAL ABUSE VICTIM MICKY FALLON SPEAKS OUT TO INSPIRE OTHERS
Former football coach Barry Bennell has been jailed for 31 years for 50 counts of child sexual abuse. And one of his victims Micky Fallon us to talk about the impact the terrible abuse has had on his life - and inspire others to speak out.
Micky has waived his right to anonymity and explained how the evil paedophile court behaved disgracefully in court as the victims gave evidence.
'Re-living the story wasn’t a pleasant one, I’ll be totally honest,' Micky told us. ''Actually seeing him in court for the first time, he appeared by video link for most of it, I got to see that man on Monday, I didn’t get to look him in the eyes, because he looked down at the floor. But that for me has been actually a really positive thing for me. For 33 years I’ve carried the man that you see in a lot of the press - the curly haired strong man. What I saw Monday was a very feeble weak man who’s going back to prison and hopefully spending the rest of his days there. So that’s helped me mentally.'
In an emotional interview, Micky revealed how difficult the abuser made it for his victims to give evidence saying, 'He absolutely showed zero remorse through the whole thing. When I gave evidence he appeared via video link on a screen – he laughed during my evidence. He laughed during most people’s evidence. That spurred me on giving my evidence to be honest. That for me was "You’re not going to beat me, you beat me 33 years ago there’s no way that’s going to beat me". Getting guilty verdicts was a great feeling of relief for all of us.'
'GENDER CAPITALIST' RAIN DOVE TALKS ABOUT BEING A GENDER-FLUID MODEL
Model Rain joined Andrea, Coleen, Janet and Nadia to discuss being a 'gender capitalist' having lived her adult life switching between male and female.
While discussing gender identity, Andrea ask which pronoun they should use for Rain who said: 'For me, I say it's just a sound to me and all I'm listening for is positivity. So address me how you want: he, she, it, one, they - for me personally.'
Opening up about being a successful male and female model - and celebrating making history by appearing on the front covers of both DIVA and Gay Times magazines at the same time - Rain encourages viewers to be open minded when it comes to gender.
'I hope this shows everyone you can be who you want to be and people will still love you. It's a safe space,' she explained. 'I don't care if you call me he, she, they or it. I felt secure when I dropped the labels.'
Rain, who is 6ft 2in, also discussed becoming a firefighter and the men assuming she was male - so she just went along with it.
'I thought I had found the secret to life. I thought, "Wow". To be perceived as a cis white hetero man in America, I mean, that's the golden ticket,' Rain explained.
'But what I discovered after living 11 months being perceived as a male is that even at the top of the food chain, that white cis hetero man, even they are oppressed in certain ways. They're not as oppressed at the same level as women, but you have to look at everyone as an individual.'
'Not as a set of genitals or as an identity. You have to look at them as a person, through their individual experiences.'
Watch the video to see the interview with Rain.