I have been shown a letter by a victim who approached the inquiry willing to give evidence is strict confidence back in October.
She heard nothing then until this month when she suddenly got a letter from the police, who had been passed her details.
She was horrified by this - her alleged abuser was a family member and she did not want the police involved.
The inquiry say it is their policy, and it says on their website, that they will inform the police if they are told of a crime.
What this amounts to is a group of survivors who have been abused, who feel they have been very let down by the authorities in the past and who see the chaos around this inquiry and feel betrayed all over again.