'I had to explain the monkey emoji to my kids': Rio Ferdinand on impact of online racism on family

Football pundit Rio Ferdinand has opened up about the impact of online racism on his family, saying relatives would "disintegrate" over abuse directed at him.

The Manchester United defender explained that he was even forced to explain to his children "what the monkey emoji means", while urging MPs at a committee hearing on online abuse to take action against social media companies which allow abuse on their platforms.

"A lot of us have children," he said, "and I have to sit there and have breakfast with my kids and explain to them what the monkey emoji means in that context, what a banana means."

He told his experience of online abuse to the Draft Online Safety Bill joint committee in Parliament, a day after his brother Anton did the same to the Home Affairs Committee.

Anton told MPs that in his view the social media companies would not act on online abuse until a footballer or celebrity took their own life, by which time it would be too late.

Brother Rio spoke openly about how the abuse can impact individuals and their families.

Former footballers Rio and Anton Ferdinand have both been the victims of online abuse. Credit: PA

"When you sit at home and you look on there and there's negative discrimination and prominent for you to see, self-esteem and your mental health is at risk," he said.

"And again, it's not just about that person, it's the wider network of that person and what it does to family and friends.

"I've seen members of my family disintegrate at times, I've seen other sports stars' family members taking it worse than the actual person who's receiving the abuse."

Ferdinand felt too much of the onus to block abusers lay with the victim.

"I think that's an easy cop-out for the social media platforms when they put forward ideas like that," he said.

Ferdinand felt it was "baffling" that social media companies could act so quickly on issues around copyright but could not be so proactive on discrimination.

He said there was a "disheartening" inevitability about the abuse directed at England trio Marcus Rashford, Bukayo Saka and Jadon Sancho after the penalty shoot-out defeat to Italy in the final of Euro 2020 at Wembley in July.

He said: "When those three players missed those penalties, the first thing I thought was 'let's see what happens on social media'. I expected (the abuse) to happen."

Watch Anton Ferdinand criticise social media companies for their failure to tackle racism on their platforms

Ferdinand cited what he felt were the lack of consequences for online abuse, compared to in-person acts.

He said someone would be identified and punished for throwing a banana onto the pitch, but added: "Online you can post a banana (emoji) and be fine. There are no repercussions. How can that be right?"

Edleen John, the Football Association's director of international relations, corporate affairs and equality, diversity and inclusion, suggested a "layered" approach to accessing platforms where people could not or would not share identity verification.

"When it comes to verification, social media companies seem to believe that it's a binary option, an on-off switch where people have to provide all information or no information," John said.

"What we believe is that there are multiple layers and multiple mechanisms which could be used in combination that could be used to tackle this issue.

"ID verification is one element, default settings could be another, the limiting of reach could be another.

"The reason we think it has to be a layering is because when we look at the volume of abuse that is received across the world of football, we see that a lot of the abuse is coming from 'burner' accounts, where people set up an account, send abusive messages, delete an account and are able to re-register another account within moments."

John described the regulatory systems put in place by the social media companies themselves akin to "putting a band-aid over a bullet wound".

Kick It Out chair Sanjay Bhandari told the committee there was a clear disconnection between the social media companies' European management and their American headquarters.

"My experience is we will have conversations in London, and it will be London says 'oh, that's interesting, maybe' and then California says 'no'," he said.

"I'm not sure if I'm stuck in Groundhog Day or Dante's Inferno. Either way, it's a deeply unpleasant experience."

Imran Ahmed, the chief executive from the Center for Countering Digital Hate (CCDH) said social media giants had proved "incapable of regulating themselves" and that at every turn they "put profit before people."