The unique best friends enjoying their first Christmas together

A man from Leicestershire is looking forward to his first Christmas not alone in four years after sparking a friendship online with a lady from Perthshire in Scotland.

Befriending one another online during lockdown, retired social worker Shelagh Low became so worried for Ben's wellbeing that she made a 700-mile round trip to the Midlands to bring him back to live with her. 

Earlier this year, Ben Canham was living alone in his flat in Melton Mowbray, barely daring to leave the front door.

The 23 year old has Asperger's Syndrome, a form of autism and lost both of his parents by the age of 18. 

During lockdown, social media was a lifeline and it was through that he got to know Shelagh, a former social worker. She was so worried about how Ben was coping, she drove all the way to Melton and brought him back to live with her in Perthshire in Scotland. 

They're now the best of friends and getting ready to spend Christmas together.

Shelagh would also have been on her own this Christmas. The people she normally visits are in a bubble with their families. For both of them, this year more than ever, friendship means everything.

Hear from the pair themselves in the report below:

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